Our Trip To Gulf Shores, Alabama

Our Trip To Gulf Shores, Alabama

Summer 2020 has been nothing like I envisioned it to be. An eventful, sunny season is ultimately my favorite time of year and honestly all that I’d hope it to be. Due to the ongoing and everlasting pandemic, COVID-19 has gotten in the way of many things. I miss vacations! I miss itineraries and sizable events/ activities. Will traveling ever go back to being what we knew it to be? I just want it to be over!

I am optimistic that we will be able to take trips like we used to, but in the meantime, I’d like to be creative and find a way to just… get away. If not only but for a short and sweet moment, wouldn’t that be nice? July is a significant month for me and represents a time of love, joy, and happiness. For starters, it is the birth month for myself (July 10th) & a host of other family and friends! CANCERS UNITE!

It’s also the month that my husband and I wed. July 2020 will always be significant, marking five years of marriage! Could you imagine being equally excited to celebrate an occasion such as this but weary about how to even approach the planning for it? To be truthful, we’d almost given up on planning anything. What was there to do? What was SAFE to do?

There may not be much to do, but there was one thing that we knew to do: we had to get away. Our research on VRBO led us to condo rentals that wouldn’t be too far from home in Gulf Shores, Alabama. We have vacationed there a couple of times before and have always managed to have a great time. We hadn’t heard in any surge of COVID-19 cases there, and the rental properties seemed to have accommodations, rules, and guidelines due to the current pandemic that we could comply with. I started to become intrigued by the possibilities of being able to escape my bedroom, office, and living room spaces.

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Young’s Suncoast Condo Rentals
We found a beautiful one-bedroom condo within minutes from the Gulf Shores beach. Young’s Suncoast has several properties within the area (Orange Beach, Gulf Shores, Fort Morgan). The One Club condo property offered us many amenities, a few that we could take advantage of such as a restaurant and bar that delivered, 24/7 Fitness Center, and private cabanas. Check out pictures from the Young’s Suncoast website for pictures of vacation rental properties. I decided to decorate our condo on arrival day with themed balloon colors and anniversary keepsakes. Everything turned out flawlessly and set the tone for a weekend full of love, happiness, and relaxation.

White, Gold, Teal Balloons
Gold Backdrop
Feathers

Beach Bums & Sandcastles
Public beaches are open if you’re in or near Alabama! It’s dead in the middle of Summer and thanks to COVID, my family and I haven’t had any family fun at the beach. We were able to find a spot on the beach, at a safe distance from everyone else, and hang out for the day. It was nice to watch the waves (which were high that day) and lay out in the sun. I walked the shore for a bit before building sandcastles with my husband and son.

Eat and Merry
Normally when I travel, I like to dine-in at restaurants that I’ve never experienced. I truly miss life pre-COVID. We worked around restaurant closures and limited menus the best that we could and honestly owe Door Dash a huge thank you! If you don’t have this food delivery service it is worth the app to download on your smartphone. Another Broken Egg is one of my favorite brunch restaurants and every time I visit Gulf Shores, it is a must-have. Usually, I’d recommend restaurants like GT’s On The Bay or Barefoot Island Grill. If you don’t have to venture out, let the food come to you. Here’s some Door Dash promo codes for July. Hurry, they’ll be expiring soon.

We Are Family
I envisioned a tropical vacation trip out of the country (it would’ve been my first time) for my fifth wedding anniversary. I’d previous thoughts about taking a cruise or a trip to the Bahamas. However, circumstances allowed us to create memories in other ways. Fun Fact: My husband and I didn’t get to have a real honeymoon after our wedding. The trip to Gulf Shores allowed my family and me to find innovative ways to bond. Usually, vacations are filled with activities, events, and itineraries. Quality time indoors while you’re away from home is typically minimal but, it deepened our communication with each other. For example, we played Zingo (a fun sight word game for toddlers) for a family fun night. Landon enjoyed identifying words on his (and everyone else’s) boards and getting a taste of winning at games.

What Summer travel plans did you have to change due to COVID-19? Will you still be taking any trips with the Summer almost coming to an end? Have you taken any trips yet this Summer? Leave a comment below.

Social Distancing: Choosing to Self- Care & Keep the Faith

Social Distancing: Choosing to Self- Care & Keep the Faith

How are you doing? What have you been doing? What do you make of all of this?

The world has been under stress while trying to remain calm in the midst of chaos. The arguably most infectious virus, COVID-19, continues to sweep the nation indoors! I have been following the frightening headlines since February to present day, and you know what? I’M TIRED! Two weeks ago marked the last time that I would have punched a time clock, the last time my son would see his friends and teacher, and the first time I was forced to distance myself and my family from the outer world due to safety concerns. Our regular routine as we once knew it is no more. I’ve had to get innovative to keep some sanity and normalcy, to keep from spiraling out into a depression. The thing about home is that this is our resting place, our “safety net”, where we come to take a break from the things we used to do everyday. Now our home is home to Miss Mama’s P-4 Academy, the Buchanan YouTube GYM, and our updated version of “The Office”– minus the paper sales. All of these headquarters reside right in our forever transforming living room.

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35 Things I Want To Do Before Turning 35

35 Things I Want To Do Before Turning 35

Time waits for no one.

With everything that is happening in the world right now, I can’t help but sit and reflect. Life has a funny way of slowing you down. It’s been forcing me to really sit down and put some long thought into what I reaaallly need to be coming to terms with. What’s that? So glad that you asked. Life is short and if you let it, it can pass you by.

I know you know the sayings, just like I know the sayings. We’ve heard them quite a few times throughout our lives, but is it just a saying or is it really that real? While I have been choosing to isolate at home by way of social distancing, I’ve been thinking of all the things that I should be doing. That I have been putting off or simply making excuses as to reasons why they can’t be done. I’ve let myself get distracted from meeting my goals, guys!! I’m thirty-one years old and there’s still so much that I want to do. The younger me thought that I would’ve been “settled” and boyyyy was I wrong. 

Hold up! Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been enjoying life but I’ve realized that there are things that I have not had the chance to do yet; that I thought I would have by this stage in life. I haven’t and will not give up on them, as there are other things I want to experience again because it makes me happy. Who doesn’t want to experience something that made them once happy over and over

So, I’ve decided to come up with a list. A list of things that I would like to do before reaching the next “major milestone” in my life. I did the math. I’m thirty-one now. In four years, I will be thirty-five. Four years should be enough time to knock off a few goals, right? Did I come up with realistic ideas that can be achieved? How much can one achieve in four years? It’ll at least give me some things to look forward to doing. As long as I am manifesting my goals, I can keep being the driving force in actually accomplishing whatever it is I want! I’ve attached my list below and included a few that I’m working on already, to give myself a head start. Read the list and wish me luck! Maybe, just maybe, you’re inspired and want to make your own list. That’s awesome!  Leave me a comment below so that I can follow along with you! 

  1. Become a Successful Blogger
  2. Travel/ Vacation to Miami, Florida
  3. Buy/Build a House
  4. Travel/ Vacation Outside of the U.S.
  5. Renew my vows
  6. Relocate to a new state
  7. Take Online Courses/ Go to University
  8. Go on a Cruise
  9. Increase my net worth
  10. Upgrade my car
  11.  Lower my debt/ increase my credit score
  12. Partner with a major corporate brand
  13. Travel/ Vacation to Los Angeles, California
  14. Attend a concert/ Attend a festival
  15. Successfully own a business
  16. Become a member of a church
  17. Own a creative space
  18. Redecorate/ Interior decorate my home
  19. Learn a new skill
  20. Spend more time with family/ friends
  21. BE HAPPIER!
  22. Support a hobby/ extracurricular activity of my son’s
  23. Attend a Paint ‘N Sip Party
  24. BE HEALTHIER!
  25. Take my mother on a shopping spree
  26. Take myself on a shopping spree
  27. Go to therapy
  28. Create a meditation schedule
  29. Chase my dreams
  30. Gain 25 pounds
  31. Establish a tribe
  32. Read 10 different books
  33. Make/ create a new project
  34. Exercise two times a day
  35. Go to a ball/ gala

How Letting Go Of Negative Thoughts Changed My Life

How Letting Go Of Negative Thoughts Changed My Life

The road to self-improvement can be a constant journey that requires regular maintenance. I know myself, I know that I have what it takes to continue working on myself, but I can’t always find the time to work on every aspect that bothers me in my life. I am consistently being challenged to find more ways to persevere through obstacles that arise and it sometimes triggers me to react negatively. My thoughts and fears take over (and not in ways that are optimistic or positive); sending me on a downward spiral of self-doubt and uncertainty. I’ve learned how to channel that energy into practicing mindfulness and meditation and it’s really been essential to my self-help development. But—real talk. I don’t always feel like being mindful or meditating everyday. I AM HUMAN. I get lazy, weary, and unconcerned just like you and anyone else that reacts to negative thoughts and fears in their lives (personal, professional, social).

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Romantic Ideas for Date Night this Valentine’s Day

Romantic Ideas for Date Night this Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is around the corner and you may be looking for some wonderful ideas on how to have a fantastic evening with your significant other (if you haven’t started getting ideas before now). Quality time with your partner is important to not only you but your partner as well. When you’re busy with your everyday lives, working and parenting, you deserve to love on each other in a way that means the most to you. If you are tired of the traditional flowers, candy, gifts, dinner and a movie–don’t worry! Romance can be a wide spectrum of how people find ways to express love and gratitude to those you love. Reminder: roses and chocolate ain’t for everybody! Here are ten creative ways to have a romantic and memorable experience with your partner that are guaranteed to be a fun night out!

Take a Paint and Sip Class

Photo Credit: Painting With a Twist

A good way to bond with your partner could be to take a painting class together. Sharing an evening of wine and art in a relaxed setting could offer a unique experience that you both would not forget. Most paint and sip classes are inexpensive and have been found to be very popular. Check locally for any studios that could be hosting a party near you. Note: Painting With a Twist has several locations throughout the U.S., see if there are any near you!

Themed Dinner and Movie at Home

Let’s face it, filling your belly up while watching a good flick always sound like a good idea. Valentine’s Day falls on a weekday this year, and after a long day at work, the two of you might not be feeling leaving the house or finding a babysitter to do anything. Watching a new or your favorite movie that the two of you picked out, paired with a home-cooked meal could be a fun way to talk to each other about the other’s day. Cooking together will allow the two of you to relax after a stressful day and focus on the things you love; the comfort of each other and your home.

Take a Couples Cooking Class

All of the restaurants can book up quickly on Valentine’s Day and it’s quite possible that you may be tired of having to choose from the same restaurants for reservations. A cooking class will give you the opportunity to learn how to make each other’s favorite meals! See if you’re able to sign up for a local cooking class that will either allow you to create your own menus or create full-course meals from a delectable menu prepared for you. Pricing on cooking classes is usually per couple, not individually, but it isn’t exactly the cheapest option on this list. It’s best to plan ahead if this is something that you know you and your partner would be in to doing.

Go to a Live Concert

Your favorite artist may have a show coming up near you. Fun fact: a few Valentine’s Day dates ago, my husband and I went a Jazmine Sullivan concert and had the time of our lives. Jazmine is a phenomenal singer that both of us enjoy listening to and it really created a memorable experience of a lifetime! We still talk about going to this concert to this very day. This also may be another option where you will need to plan in advance for, with having to purchase tickets. However, if you’re in to trying out your luck last minute, you never know what could happen. We actually got our concert tickets just days before the show.

Ice Cream Date

Who said that chocolate has to be the preferred sweet treat for Valentine’s Day? This can be a great idea to incorporate the kids and make it a “family date night”. Bring your loves to the nearest Marble Slab Creamery or Dippin’ Dots for a sweet inexpensive treat. I scream, you scream, everybody will scream for ice cream!

A Relaxing Day at the Spa

The two of you deserve a relaxing day, free of all of your day to day routine. It may be time to escape and what better way to do it than to visit the spa. Most spas have Valentine’s Day deals and packages that you can look into to take advantage of before it’s too late. Keep in mind that other couples may have this same idea in mind and you may need to schedule your appointments as soon as you know that you and your partner would like to make it a day of relaxation.

Book a Hotel Room for the Night

Can’t afford to take time off of work and/or get away for the weekend due to no one to watch the kids? Open up your browser tab and log in to your Expedia or Priceline to see what last minute, one night only deals you can find. This can also be a family date night idea! As much as you could use a break, the kids may enjoy this time away from home too.

Plan a Fun Date Night w/ Other Couples

A couples’ retreat with your friends could be fun. Whether it is a vacation that you guys decide to plan out together or a group outing in town, it will prove to be a fun, interactive way to hang out with your partner and friends!

Recreate Your First Date

This could be a super romantic gesture if you have a great memory. Plan to travel to all of the spots where you shared your firsts. Your first meals, your first kiss, the first time you bought each other something in the mall. If you’re creative enough, this might be the really emotional idea that could remind you of all the moments you’ve shared together.

Go Dancing!

Like to dance? Not just at the club! Learning how to salsa could be a fun experience. Go have some drinks together and find a local salsa, samba, or tango class you can sign up for and cut a rug! Taking a dancing class (whether you’re a great dancer or terrible dancer) is guaranteed to be a joyous time out of the house. You’ll be surprised at all the moves you and your partner will make.

Whatever you decide to do this Valentine’s Day, make sure your heart is in it. You don’t have to do any of the typical things that people normally do on this day. Your partner is with you because you make them feel like the happiest person alive! Any gesture from you will be one that they will embrace the most, regardless of whatever ideas you decide to come up with.

Black History: 5 Historical Places to Visit in Mississippi

Black History: 5 Historical Places to Visit in Mississippi

It’s a celebration! February, Black History Month, is our annual celebration of achievements of African-American people and a time for recognizing our success, our central roles that have made a difference in the world, and an undying love and appreciation of our culture. African-American culture is both distinct and influential to the lifestyles of so many Americans. This year, I wanted to highlight some of the best places to visit in Mississippi for Black History month. All of the monumental places (mostly museums) can be found throughout North, Central, and Southern Mississippi. If you happen to be near any of the places highlighted, do yourself a favor and sign up to do a tour. There’s so much to be inspired by in the Magnolia State, and I am certain that you just might learn something.

African American Military History Museum

Photo Credit: African American Military History Museum

This museum opened in 1942, for African- American soldiers that were stationed at Camp Shelby. The African-American Military Museum is the only building remaining for African-American soldiers in the United States. The museum aims to educate the public about African-American contributions to the United States military. The museum can be found on 6th Street, in Hattiesburg, Mississippi and offers free admission to guests that decide to visit the exhibits. Some of the exhibits that you can explore: Lobby Exhibits (Discover the history of the USO Club, from a WWII Recreation Building to Hattiesburg’s first African American Library and Community Center), Revolutionary War, The Founding of Hattiesburg, Buffalo Soldiers, World War I & II, Desegregation, and Desert Storm to name a few. To see how you can schedule your visit to the museum, go to their website to learn more about how you can tour the museum or make a a donation!

Delta Blues Museum

Photo Credit: Delta Blues Museum

The Delta Blues Museum is place to go to explore the history and heritage of the American musical art form of the blues. If you’re looking to find meaning, value, or perspective about the blues and its origin, this museum is located in Clarksdale, Mississippi (better known as “the crossroads” of interstate sections HWY 61 and HWY 49). Established in 1979, this museum has been dedicated to the mission of preserving the story of the blues, as many of the legendary blues musical artists are born in or around Clarksdale, MS (Muddy Waters, Ike Turner, Sam Cooke). This month the museum has several historical exhibits that include: Ike Turner and Rocket 88, Panny Mayfield: Live from the Mississippi Delta, Don Nix: Memphis Man Living High, Laying Low, Blue Portraits in Steel. For those looking to purchase tickets to tour The Delta Blues Museum, General Admission is $10. Check out their website to download museum brochures, make a donation, learn more about pricing, and how to purchase your tickets.

The Grammy Museum

Photo Credit: The Grammy Museum Mississippi

The Grammy family is in Mississippi! The Recording Academy Grammy Museum provides unique learning opportunities about the entire creative and technological processes of Mississippi recording artists. The Grammy Museum, located in Cleveland, Mississippi, is an interactive celebration of the power of music. In 2011, the 28,000 square foot museum was built on the campus of Delta State University, and has provided inspirational and educational public programs featuring exhibits, film, lectures, and intimate performances. This month the museum features the celebration of Jermaine Dupri, 25 Years of Jermaine Dupri and SoSoDef. Exhibit highlights include: lyric and concept books from Kris Kross, performance wardrobes for So So Def artists, the original beat machine that Jermaine Dupri used to make his earlier productions and more. To find out how you can tour this exhibit before it leaves, go to The Grammy Museum’s website to get touring information.

Mississippi Civil Rights Museum

Photo Credit: Mississippi Civil Rights Museum

According to their website, The Mississippi Civil Rights Museum shares the stories of a Mississippi movement that changed the nation. The museum promotes a greater understanding of the Mississippi Civil Rights Movement and its impact by highlighting the strength and sacrifices of its people. Visitors will witness the freedom struggle in eight interactive galleries that show the systematic oppression of black Mississippians and their fight for equality that transformed the state and nation. The museum has eight interactive exhibits that include: Mississippi Freedom Struggle, Mississippi in Black and White, This Little Light of Mine (a soaring space filled with natural light from large windows), A Closed Society, A Tremor in the Iceberg, I Question America, Black Empowerment, and Where Do We Go From Here? Be sure to check out the website as it also lists special events happening throughout Black History Month. General Admission is $10 for adults and as of 2020, the museum now offers audio tours! This one I highly recommend to experience.

Mary O’Keefe Cultural Center

If you’re not going to be in any of the North or Central Mississippi locations this month, the Gulf Coast will have Black History events and programs throughout the month. The Mary O’Keefe Cultural Center (Ocean Springs, Mississippi) will be hosting events February 7th, 15th, and 28th for local black artists and businesses. Two of the events have free admission, and if you’re going to check out the live performances event, admission is only $5. If you are an artist or business owner, you’ll get the chance to showcase your talents and promote your brand. Check out the website for additional information.

7 People to Watch on YouTube

7 People to Watch on YouTube

YouTube is a place where creativity is so unique and individualistic. Creatives from literally all over the world can upload whatever video content they’ve created for a targeted audience and garner lots of views. Hundreds, thousands, millions of views. Oh, and if you’re really doing well over in YouTube Land, you can monetize off of that same media content you’ve uploaded. Brand partnerships arise and you’ve got paid ads sponsored on your channel. That’s awesome! Way to create!


Whenever I am browsing YouTube, I’m always looking for content that’s “different”. YouTube has been pretty accessible for over a decade now and I’ve seen just about any and every thing that you could imagine. I like to find inspiration to keep MY creativity going. I’ve mentioned in a previous blog how you can feel like things may be… oversaturated. These seven YouTube channels have inspired me to spark my creativity light bulb in their own respective ways, in some capacity. If you are yearning for new people to watch/ subscribe to, they are certainly worth the streaming views!


TYMETHEINFAMOUS

TymeTheInfamous (better known as Tyme) has been someone that I’ve been subscribed to since 2011 or 2012. She’s a beauty vlogger that has created and recreated a lot of my favorite “how to” makeup/hair content. Tyme started out doing freelance make-up prior to soaring on YouTube and now creates your favorite make-up tutorials, unboxing/ product reviews, giveaways/hauls, DIY nail tutorials. She’s amazing and she is all about working with a budget, too. A combination of things that all ladies love.

ELLE MAGAZINE

Okay! So, I only follow Elle for one reason: Song Association. I love it! Song Association is a series on their channel where special guests are given ten seconds and a word. They must sing a song with the word provided (in ten seconds or less) and the guest must either include the word in the song title or know the title of the song and artist. I like watching this so much because it’s two of my favorite things: music and creativity. I am always intrigued to see what songs end up coming to mind for the special guests. It’s super fun! Play along with the rest of us if you happen to watch an episode!

WILL SMITH

Duh, it’s Will Smith! I’ve been a true fan since The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air (just like the rest of us) but right when I thought my fandom couldn’t peak anymore, he made himself accessible on social media! What I love about Will’s channel (really, his social media period) is how creative he gets with his content. He’s actually been to YouTube University to learn how to create. Every thing about his YouTube channel could be beneficial to any one with the same passion as the rest of the creatives. Editing, video quality, the content itself. Oh, and by the way, he drops a gem every episode he puts out. You’re welcome.

NAPTURAL85

Naptural (Whitney) is everyone’s favorite natural hair maven! This is another channel that I’ve been following for a while, since my big chop back in 2014. I want to credit her as one of the people that inspired me to go ahead with the big chop (I tried transitioning prior to chopping). Whitney has hundreds of DIY hairstyles for any natural texture/ curl pattern. She is also great about including hair care maintenance videos and she’s also great with working with a budget. If you’re into health/ beauty vloggers, please subscribe to Whitney’s channel. She does not miss!

ALIYA JANELL

Aliya may be the newest person that I’m subscribed to on YouTube, but you’ll soon understand why. Some of you may follow her on Instagram already, or seen some of her dance clips floating around Instagram, Facebook, or Twitter. Aliya is a dance choreographer that comes up with sultry, sexy dance routines… in heels! She’s choreographed for Nicki Minaj, Chris Brown, Tank, and Trey Songz (to name a few). She’s built her online content just from streaming her class (Queen ‘N Lettos) live on Instagram. I love that the routines that she creates always are meant for dancers to be inspired, love the routine and make it their own, and feel confident while doing it. Watch a video and I guarantee you might try to pick up some moves.

KANDI BURRUSS

Kandi knows the secrets to get to the coins! Kandi Burruss is someone to follow from an inspiration/motivation standpoint when it comes to business. I’m definitely a fan of Real Housewives of Atlanta, but aside from that, I have always been inspired by her business mindset. Her YouTube channel focuses on her reality (family, business, relationships, things that she’s spoken about on RHOA) and it’s great to have! She even says it in one of her soundbites that “she can turn a shade tree, into a money tree”.

TSMADISON HINTON

It’s the Queen’s Supreme Court! My final channel that I am subscribed to is TS Madison aka “The Queens Supreme Court”. This is to balance out all that inspiration with some laughter and comedy. I’ve actually been a fan of this show when it was TS and Khia, but things work out for a reason. It’s moved on without one of the original hosts and the other host made it even better! When you need something just watch on a quiet evening and nothing’s on tv, turn on TS Madison’s Supreme Court show. It’s aired live every week and of course if you miss it, the video is uploaded to her channel within minutes.

3 Books Recommended for Self-Improvement

3 Books Recommended for Self-Improvement

It’s a new year so you know what that means, new goals and challenges. At the end of the last year/ decade, I decided that I was going to start spending more time taking care of myself. The routines and habits that I have grown accustomed to– I’m over. BORING! OVERWHELMING! It’s as simple as this: I need to get back to enjoying life. After some major life changing events (marriage + parenting), I quit doing a lot of the things that I would typically enjoy. So for 2020, I’ve decided to go back to reading as one of the many steps towards my self-care journey. I’ve found three books that are going to help retrain my mind and thought processes on how to live a meaningful and happy life again.

Since I am a very busy lady, I really don’t have much time to just sit in a quiet room or corner, curled up with a book. I’ve heard some really great things about Audible (powered by Amazon), a digital audiobook reader. You can listen to your favorite books through your app that you have on your smart device & Audible is giving you the a free 30-day trial, plus your first audiobook for free! This was the easiest route for me and obviously a no-brainer. Parents, we read bedtime stories every night. Let’s allow someone else to do the reading for us. HA!

Manual for Living, by Epictetus, is the first book on the list. This book helps readers to see that some things are in your power and some are not, and to stop confusing the two. Our opinions of things determine how we feel about a particular event, not the event itself. The manual also wants us to challenge ourselves to think carefully about how we decide to spend our lives. People often spend their lives chasing things that are neither desirable or as important as they seem. People also spend time desiring things that are not in their power. If this book describes you in any way, this will be a great read for you.

Second on the list, The Practicing Mind, takes readers on a path of developing focus and discipline in their lives. For those of us who like (or dislike) acquiring new skills or facing dreadful challenges that we hope to overcome, patience/focus/discipline are the traits that seem very difficult to maintain. The author, Thomas Sterner, will demonstrate how to learn skills for any aspect in life (from business to love) by learning to love the process. This is key for people who are in the business of practicing instant gratification. Remember: if at first you don’t succeed, try again!

The third, and final book on the list, is 10% Happier (written by Dan Harris). 10% Happier is about the discovery of meditation. The author depicts his personal journey and how he began to self-help through meditation. The book tells readers about practicing mindfulness and meditation, and allows readers to relate even more by discussing the skepticism behind it. I’m certain there’s even a few readers today that are skeptical about meditation, but I implore you to give it a try. I meditate regularly and the book and myself are here to tell you that… it works! If you believe.


If you’re wondering, I haven’t completed all of the books yet, but I have started reading. Hopefully, with the help of Audible, I can complete these a bit faster than the time that it would normally take a busy person to read a book. If you are on a self-care journey, incorporate these books into your plan. Self-care has to start with you. Please share any other books that you’ve read or plan on reading for self-improvement by leaving a comment below. Let’s improve the qualities of our lives together!

7 Lessons I’ve Learned in Life

7 Lessons I’ve Learned in Life

There are so many lessons that have been taught to me over the course of my thirty-one years of existing on planet Earth. It’s hard to even recall all of the lessons that many people have taught me, or the self-taught ones that I’ve learned over the process of trial and error. What I’ve come to find out, is that, the most recent lessons that I’ve learned are the ones that have shaped and molded my self-improvement journey. I decided to share them with readers, in no particular order.

#1. LOVE YOURSELF.

Although I said earlier that my list is in no particular order, perhaps this is the best way to start; with yourself. You are important, you are beautiful, you are talented, you are deserving of love. The most beautiful thing about loving yourself is that if you’ve mastered self love, you can then be able to pour that love into the ones around you that you love the most (ie. family, friends). Be proud of yourself and your accomplishments or your falls! Own it.

#2. TRUST GOD, NOT MAN.

This one may go over a few heads, but it’s really quite simple. Yes, if you know that you will never let yourself down, please place trust within yourself. However, people can sometimes disappoint. That goes for everybody, no one person is exempt. Family, friends, spouses, business partners. At some point, you will find yourself in situations where you have to question “can I honestly trust this person?”, and you need to be prepared to know a few things. Not everyone is YOU. People will lie, mistreat, abuse their power in your life. When you place your faith in God and also yourself, you run a decreased risk of disappointment.

#3. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.

Your body is truly your temple. Your mental health is just as important as physical health. Do your research to find out the best practices for self-care, that work best for you. Everybody has a different vice but there are many different options. Exercise regularly, visit a therapist, meditate! Most important, pay attention to your triggers and know when you need to take that moment for yourself. A big gem that I learned here, is that deep breaths really do work.

#4. SILENCE IS NOT ALWAYS GOLDEN.

You have a voice, use it. Especially during conflicts and conflict resolution. Learn to express yourself and your feelings in color. Learn how to communicate loudly and effectively, but without raising your voice or getting too angry. You should be able to convey your thoughts concisely, in healthy dialogue.

#5. PASSION DOES NOT EQUAL ANGER.

You just care a whole, whole lot. That’s okay! You’re not an angry Black woman, contrary to what the masses say. You care about particular things and people way more than others sometimes, and that is what makes us all unique. No one person is the same. Passion will eventually help your creative process, with being able to figure out new way(s) to express your thoughts.

#6. OPINIONS ARE NOT FACTS.

Why do people care so much about what others have to say? Stop seeking for others to validate you, and validate yourself. People will always talk and have solicited and unsolicited opinions, but why let it dictate your life? Tune out the naysayers and do you. It can start to add unnecessary anxiety and stress that you may not even realize exists until after you’ve listened to what others have to say. Just remember, if it’s not fact, it is fiction. If it doesn’t apply, then let it fly!

#7. EDUCATE YOURSELF.

The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.– Socrates

Educate yourself. Research, research, research! Read lots of books, browse the internet. Especially if you want to be an entrepreneur. Every thing is not always taught in school, we can learn in so many other ways!


I hope that by sharing what I’ve learned in life, helps any of you that’s been looking to change your thought process on how you view life. Hopefully we are all on a journey to improve ourselves and become happy humans, enjoying life. Who would have thought that these are things we have to learn? Some of you may have already learned these lessons, and that’s great. I hope that by paying it forward, it will reach someone that may be struggling with any of these lessons that affect our day-to-day operations.

What are some life lessons that you’ve learned? Leave a comment below. If you know of anyone who this may benefit, share/ reblog!

30- Day Self + Improvement Challenge

30- Day Self + Improvement Challenge

Rediscovery and self purpose are two things that I have been working with myself on throughout the year. The younger person inside of me would have probably thought that this is something I should already be perfect in– especially in my 30’s. I’m starting to believe that it can take even longer to truly understand and live in your purpose. What you were created to fulfill the universe with. Sometimes it does seem that I might have just figured out where I want to be and then I get hit with a possibility that I did not even know could exist. I am certain of a couple of things — I am not perfect and I am still blossoming into my destiny.

When you aren’t a novice to things that you’ve experienced over and over again, you begin to search for a challenge. Challenging yourself can be a great way to test your progress and see your growth, practice your patience, and learn new habits to take the old habits place. I was once told by Oprah and several other popular online articles that it takes twenty-one days (minimum) to break/ create a habit. I found this neat challenge on Pinterest that is designed to help change my lifestyle. As I am starting this challenge, I am manifesting that by the end of it, I will have a clear concept of where I would like to take my career. 2019 challenged my career goals really hard as I worked tirelessly for my employers and trying to be my own boss simultaneously. I no longer want to do both and I want clear and concise ideas for how to accomplish my goal!

I have attached the 30- Day Self Improvement Challenge below and hope that you all decide to join me. Let’s get the conversation going and leave me a comment if you will be joining and if you face any challenges during your 30 days. Of course I look forward to the end result for all of us!

I am forever grateful for the self courage and wisdom that I was able to discover while quieting my mind and rediscovering my purpose. I feel like I am one step closer to reaching the end goal, even though I know there are many steps in between the start and finish line. I am just proud of myself for even starting.

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