Wellness

This section of IT’S THE LEWK is all about your health! This is the perfect space for you to learn tips and get advice/ideas for physical, mental, and emotional wellbeing to help you take care of you.

  • Best Skincare Gifts for Normal to Dry Skin *Tested*

    Best Skincare Gifts for Normal to Dry Skin *Tested*

    Shopping for skincare products is not easy for everyone as it may seem. Firstly, dozens of skincare products are on the market with promises to correct and address the same concerns. Additionally, our skin goes through routine changes! A change in skin type or texture can present challenges for shopping for the right skincare products to help identify skincare concerns. Tbh, it’s chaotic. There needs to be an effective method in place to navigate all those skincare products on the market! So, we’ve compiled a guide to a few of our favorite skincare products. These products will make the best skincare gifts for the skincare lover in your life!

    (Whether that person is you or someone you may know.)

    Why You Should Trust Us: Reasons Why They’re The Best Skincare Gifts

    So if you’re asking for a friend, we want to tell you why you can trust us about these products. We got you! The reader should note that the skincare products in this guide work best for normal to dry skin types. This news is great for our readers and girlies who do not have many skincare concerns or goals. Secondly, we believe each item on this list is a great product to add to any beginner or expert skincare routine. Lastly, we’ve sorted through the best honest reviews from verified reviewers, we’ve tested these products ourselves, and we’re confident that skincare lovers will find them beneficial!

    DISCLAIMER: Heads up! My posts contain affiliate links. Above all, if you buy something through one of those links, you will not have to pay a penny more, but I receive a small commission. In other words, it helps keep the lights on. Thanks! 

    Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion

    cetaphil moisturing lotion | best skincare gifts

    Let’s begin with the best skin care products that anyone can use daily. Cetaphil is a trusted brand by dermatologists and many consumers. Their body lotions and moisturizers provide hydration and nourishment that lasts all day. The Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion is perfect for the face and body of all skin types (normal, dry, and sensitive).

    Price at the time of publishing: $12

    *What Our Reviewers Say: 

    “My skin really likes Cetaphil Moisturizing Lotion. I usually apply right after I bathe/shower and don’t have to worry about reapplying as I would with [some] other lotions/moisturizers, and I consider this [to be] a pretty ‘clean’ skincare product which is a plus. I trust enough to let my whole family use it for this reason, and I would purchase it again.” – Aspiring D, Influenster Reviewer

    Chapstick Total Hydration with Sea Minerals

    chapstick total hydration with sea minerals

    This 3-in-1 lip balm has a botanical-moisturizing complex to help keep lips moisturized for up to 8 hours. Reviewers found their lips feeling nongreasy, soft, and smooth after using this Chapstick with a triple-action formula. Everyone and anyone who has used Chapstick’s products before knows that their products renew and transform dry lips for a radiant and youthful look.

    Price at the time of publishing: $7

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I absolutely love this Total Hydration Sea Minerals Moisturizing lip exfoliator, and I use it at night as a moisturizer for my lips. [This] tends to leave my lips soft and hydrated the next morning. I really enjoy this new product.” – Jamie U, Influencer

    CosRx Niacinamide 15 Serum

    cosrx niacinamide serum | best skincare gifts

    Serums are the best gifts for addressing and treating skin care concerns. CosRx’s Niacinamide 15 Serum rapidly treats mild to severe acne breakouts and dark spots. The serum is light and absorbs fast into the skin, and reviewers noticed a change in appearance within 30 days!

    Price at the time of publishing: $25

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I think this is a good everyday serum! I’m a huge fan of niacinamide in my routine and have been for years, as there are spots on my face that are an oil slick if left to their own devices, and I have massive pores in those areas as well. This serum is definitely in the top five niacinamide serums that I have used. I can really tell a difference in the oil production throughout the day on my skin.” – Shelby M, Skincare Enthusiast, Makeup Junkie

    CosRx Vitamin C 23 Serum

    cosrx vitamin 23 serum

    We believe our readers will no longer be interested in searching for the fountain of youth after using this serum. CosRx’s Vitamin C 23 Serum targets aging, improve skin, and boosts skin radiance. What we love most about the Vitamin C 23 Serum is its 23% pure vitamin c, perfect for reducing wrinkles and enhancing elasticity.

    Price at the time of publishing: $25

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I [honestly wasn’t too] sure what to think about this product at first. The consistency also [appears] like a lightweight oil at first, so I was nervous about it leaving my combination skin oily. All [of] my concerns were put to rest when I put the product on my face! While [it] has a strong smell in the bottle, once you put it on your face, you don’t notice a thing.

    The formula absorbs quickly into the skin without leaving it looking greasy. After just a few days of using this product, I noticed a big improvement in my skin tone. I have quite a bit of sun damage from years of living in Florida by the beach, and this definitely helped reduce some of the discoloration and fine lines.” – Allyson C., Influenster Reviewer

    Dr. Teal’s Melatonin Shea Sugar Scrub

    dr. teal's melatonin shea sugar scrub | best skincare gifts

    We’re all for total body care, so the decision was easy to include this product in our gift guide. Dr. Teal’s brand has many scrubs, oils, and salts that people use to help relax and heal their bodies. Their brand is one of the popular go-tos for relaxation. Dr. Teal’s Shea Sugar Scrub has vitamins like A and E and essential oils to exfoliate and lock in moisture. Our readers should note that a sugar scrub’s recommended use is 1-2 times weekly to avoid over-exfoliating the skin.

    Price at the time of publishing: $6

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I recently tried Dr. Teal’s Melatonin Shea Sugar Scrub, and I have to say, I was pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoyed it. [The combination of] shea butter and sugar crystals creates a gentle yet effective scrub that leaves my skin feeling soft and smooth. The added melatonin is a nice touch, and I appreciate the calming benefits it provides.” – Kira A., Influenster Reviewer

    Dr. Teal’s Sleep Body Lotion

    dr. teal's sleep body lotion

    The third moisturizer to make our list is Dr. Teal’s Sleep Body Lotion. If you’re trying out Dr. Teal’s Melatonin Shea Sugar Scrub (the fourth-best skincare gift in this guide), we recommend pairing the sleep body lotion with it for maximum results. How to use: use the sugar scrub during bathtime. Then, follow up with the sleep body lotion after your bath for additional moisture. Many testers agree that its lightweight formula works to promote better sleeping.

    Price at the time of publishing: $5

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I came across Dr. Teal’s Sleep Body Lotion at Wal-Mart. Let me tell you this [lotion] is part of my new nightly bath routine. The shea butter smell is not overpowering the essential oil in the lotion. To me, the best part is the melatonin in the lotion. It’s everything you need to relax your body at the end of the night.” – Leesha H., Blogger

    Mele Plump It Up Nourishing Cream

    mele plump it up nourishing cream

    So just like all of the other moisturizers on this list, this melanin-rich nourishing cream is designed for dry skin care. What we love most about the Mele brand is that they make skincare products for women of color. We know firsthand about the lack of skincare products on the market that are inclusive to all skin types and how that makes it even harder to find products that work. Mele’s Plump It Up Nourishing Cream is just one of their products that identifies specific needs such as dryness and uneven skin tone in melanin-rich skin. 

    Price at the time of publishing: $12

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I was excited to try this brand out since this is Black-owned skincare. It isn’t oily and doesn’t give any scent, and I’d definitely recommend it for those with dry skin.” – Fallon B., Influenster Reviewer

    Philosophy Pore Minimizing Serum

    philosophy pore minimizing serum

    The Purity Pore Minimizing Serum decreases the appearance of pores instantly. If you’re looking for products that show improvement results quickly, we feel you can’t go wrong with this serum + multitasking moisturizer (more on this soon). We noticed a difference in our skin’s appearance, noting fewer blackheads and clogged pores; within 24 hours of using this serum. We gotta love a product that boasts of purity being made simplistic!

    Price at the time of publishing: $39

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I have been using Philosophy products for almost a decade now. Their products never let me down [and] this [one] has done wonders on my skin. As for pore minimizing, I do notice a slight difference when combining with other actives.” – Chelsea W., Content Creator

    Philosophy Hope In A Jar Moisturizer

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    READ FULL REVIEW: Starting the New Year With Hope And A Radiant Glow

    We raved about this moisturizer on It’s The Lewk all last year as one of our favorite new products. This product is definitely one of our go-to moisturizers and is used routinely in our skincare regimen. In addition to targeting dehydration, this multitasking moisturizer promotes skin surface cell renewal and boosts radiance. We’ve never experienced a glow like this with any other moisturizer!

    Price at the time of publishing: $42

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I’m so pleasantly surprised by this product, mostly because I’m super picky when it comes to face creams, but especially when they promise to be the solution to several skin concerns like this one who says it can improve both fine lines and skin texture while also turning dull, dry skin into glowing well-hydrated skin. My expectations were high, and my skepticism even higher. I found myself cutting out several other products because this truly is a multitasking cream.” – Ine L., Influencer

    Rimmel London Wonder Serum

    Rimmel London wonder serum

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    Enjoy longer, fuller, and revitalized lashes when you use Rimmel London’s serum for eyebrows and lashes. Its gentle, nutrient-rich conditioning formula supports lash and eyebrow growth. This serum is perfect for growing eyebrows and eyelashes for a fuller or thicker appearance.

    Price at the time of publishing: $8

    *What Our Reviewers Say:  

    “I was genuinely impressed by the results of this easy-to-use lash/brow serum! I had noticeable results with longer, fuller bare lashes and with mascara after just a few weeks of use. The formula is thicker than other lash serums I’ve tried, but I think that’s actually an advantage because it’s less likely to run into your eyes. This product is very affordable and is a great value compared with other popular lash serums on the market. It didn’t cause any irritation, redness, or discomfort to my eyes or the skin around my eyes.” – Gabriela S., Influenster Reviewer


  • Ouai Hair Mask Is A Miracle For Damaged Hair

    Ouai Hair Mask Is A Miracle For Damaged Hair

    Are you someone who is struggling with dry, brittle hair? Have you noticed how difficult it is for your hair to retain moisture and oil in thick coils? Lastly, is your hair unhealthy because of its dryness, split ends, heat, chemical, or color damage? If you responded ‘yes’ to any of those questions, then; I have the perfect solution for you! The time is up for dry, damaged hair! Ouai hair mask is the best solution to repair and heal thick, dry and damaged hair.

    DISCLAIMER: Heads up! My posts contain affiliate links. Above all, if you buy something through one of those links, you will not have to pay a penny more, but I receive a small commission. In other words, it helps keep the lights on. Thanks!

    Before we explain how the Ouai hair mask is the best solution for hair damage and dryness (and why you need to use it), let’s discuss how THE LEWK discovered this haircare miracle. I received this product complimentary from Influenster; in exchange for my honest opinion. I have been an Influenster affiliate for a year now, and that means I get to test and review hundreds of products to help consumers make easier shopping decisions. Please check out the other beauty products I’ve reviewed for Influenster in previous blog reviews. 

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    About Ouai Hair Mask

    The Ouai (pronounced ‘way’) hair mask is a treatment product for hair that restores and revitalizes natural hair textures. It repairs hair damage, restores moisture and hydration, and prevents breakage. The brand offers two options for this treatment mask for different hair types:

    1. fine-to-medium textures
    2. thick hair textures

    Each mask targets different hair concerns for all hair textures, but there’s one thing that they both have in common: building shiny, manageable, and healthy hair. You’ll want to use the thick hair treatment masque if your hair concerns and goals are:

    1. hair damage
    2. anti-breakage
    3. frizz control
    4. moisture retention

    If thick hair maintenance isn’t your struggle, then; you’ll need to use the fine-to-medium treatment masque to address your haircare concerns. Ouai’s fine-to-medium treatment masque targets:

    1. repairing split ends
    2. hydration
    3. frizz control
    4. strengthening fine-to-medium strands

    Ouai Hair Mask Ingredients

    contents of ouai hair treatment mask

    All of the products from Ouai are cruelty, gluten, paraben, and phthalate free. The fine-to-medium treatment mask contains:

    1. shea butter
    2. panthenol
    3. hydrolyzed keratin

    Click the jump for a complete list of ingredients.

    Additionally, the Ouai hair masque for thick hair contains:

    1. shea butter
    2. lillipe butter
    3. hydrolyzed keratin
    4. blend of almond, olive, and macadamia oils

    Click the jump for a complete list of ingredients.

    How to Use Ouai Hair Masks

    Both mask products work best when applied to freshly cleansed hair. Next, starting from the ends and working into the roots, apply a quarter-size amount of the mask conditioner. Then, comb through with your fingers. Finally, let the mask sit for 5-10 minutes and then rinse with cool water. You can follow up with your favorite leave-in conditioner for added hydration.

    Where to Buy These Hair Mask Products

    Are you ready for your next hair miracle? It’s time to break up with split ends and do some damage control. Ouai hair masks are here to heal and repair everything your hair has been through in the name of maintenance. These hair treatments want to deliver smooth, shiny, healthy, manageable hair to your natural tresses! Visit your local Target, Ulta, or Sephora store to grab these haircare goodies! 

    Ouai $38

    Sephora $38

    Target $38

    Ulta Beauty $38

    freshly cleansed hair with ouai conditioner

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    Do you feel that hair damage, breakage, and split ends aren’t your haircare goals or concerns? Check out the posts below for more hair-spiration and haircare products! Moreover, don’t forget to sign-up for our newsletter to stay in the loop about new haircare product reviews, be the first to know about new blog posts, and receive exclusive discount codes and shopping giveaways!


  • Powerful Words of Affirmation For Success

    Powerful Words of Affirmation For Success
    positive words of affirmation

    Words of affirmation are short and powerful statements that people can use to promote positive thinking. They allow us to be in control of our thoughts and shape our realities. Individuals can repeat affirmation statements until they become new beliefs. I use affirmations to eliminate negative thinking and to help me navigate challenges that will make achieving goals easier, through the law of attraction. This blog post will provide insight into what affirmations are, what the laws of attraction mean, and how to incorporate these things together when motivating ourselves through self-care practices. 


    Every day, people are using affirmations to attract confidence, abundance, love, success, and happiness. Studies have shown that it is not uncommon for people to increase their happiness through a positive mindset. Plenty of people desire to be more successful in life and have found affirmations help combat negative self-talk and negative mindsets. After I started using affirmations, I found that I have a better outlook on what my purpose is and that I am worthy of attaining success. I’ve learned how to be gentle with myself by becoming more trusting and confident in my abilities to make decisions. Positive affirmations require regular practice to achieve long-term changes in your life.

    Related: How Letting Go of Negative Thoughts Changed My Life

    Words of Affirmation: The Laws of Attraction

    The Law of Attraction is the belief that positive thoughts will yield positive results in your life, career, health, or relationships. There are 3 Laws of Attraction that detail this concept: 

    1. Like Attracts Like
    2. Removal of Negative Energy
    3. The Present is Always Perfect

    Like Attracts Like is the law that similar things are attracted to one another. Although opposites can often attract, it is the belief that it is more often that like attracts like. What we think about and choose to believe is what we tend to do. People will use affirmations to think and believe positive thoughts to do the work needed to attract positive results. 

    Removing negative thoughts makes space for positive thoughts! This law of attraction is identified as “nature abhors a vacuum” and is the belief that if we remove negative energy and replace it with positive, we will create a space to attract new things. Ex: Decluttering your closet will allow you to make room for the new clothes that you just purchased

    The Present is Always Perfect if you’re looking to use this law to attract the things you want. Amid a challenge, it can be hard to see the good in bad things. It is never too late to change how you choose to respond to negative situations. Implement the use of affirmations whenever there is a desire to complain about something that isn’t going right for you. Look for ways to improve the present moment.

    20 Powerful Words of Affirmation to Attract Abundance & Success

    Related: Who Else Wants a Free 7-Day Gratitude Journal

    Now that you know about affirmations and the 3 laws of attraction, here are 20 affirmation statements that you can use to help you attract abundance, confidence, and success into your life. This list of affirmations that I’ve compiled consists of action statements that I’ve repeated throughout the year. Try saying them in the morning, to start the day or at night, before going to bed. Repeat affirmations daily and regularly (at least 10 times a day). Listen to yourself say each word, focus on them as they are leaving your mouth, and believe them to be true. 

    I hope that this post helps anyone interested in learning how affirmations work, and how to use them to attract success and happiness in their life. I have always encouraged positive thinking as a form of self-care and I believe it motivates people to meet their goals. What are some positive affirmations that you may say to attract what you want? 

    Let me know in a comment!


  • INFLUENSTER: Unboxing + How To Get For Free

    INFLUENSTER: Unboxing + How To Get For Free

    Influenster is a product discovery platform for consumers and influencers. There are hundreds of thousands of brands looking for honest feedback in exchange for free products! Influencers are surveyed and matched to campaigns or a voxbox to review and share with their audience on social media.

    influenster voxbox

    HOW TO GET A FREE INFLUENSTER VOXBOX

    Influenster is a product discovery app that encourages consumers and influencers to write reviews on products from thousands of brands. Reviewing products and being active on the Influenster app increases your chances to receive free stuff like voxboxes and match for voxbox campaigns.

    WHAT IS A VOXBOX?

    An Influenster VoxBox is a box full of full-sized free products that you get to review and keep. These boxes are often based on a theme but are sometimes a single product or group of products from the same company. These are truly awesome boxes that can contain hundreds of dollars worth of free stuff.

    O- M- G! The Love In The Air Voxbox from Influenster has arrived. I am so excited and grateful to have been chosen for this amazing opportunity to test a box full of free products. This post will contain product reviews about the products that were sent to me for free, in exchange for my honest review.

     

    Love In The Air Influenster Voxbox

    The voxbox that I received in the mail came with four products

    1. Coach Dreams Eau de Parfum
    2. Glow Recipe Watermelon Glow Pink Body Cream
    3. Goop G.Tox Salt Scalp Scrub Shampoo
    4. Mont Blanc Legend Eau de Toilette

    All items are available for consumers to purchase online (brand website, Sephora, Ulta). The fragrances that I received were not full-size. The Voxbox also came with details on each product included in the box.

    Coach Dreams Eau de Parfum (2020)

    influenster: coach dreams

    I will be shopping for a new perfume after sampling this fragrance from Coach. Coach Dreams evokes the freedom and adventure of a road trip across America. The scent combines radiant bitter orange with the sensual warmth of gardenia, cactus flower, and Joshua tree. The fragrance is light and long-lasting. My only wish is that I could have received a larger size to sample. The Coach Dreams Eau de Parfum retails $28.00- $102.00 online

    Glow Recipe Watermelon Glow Pink Dream Body Cream (2021)

    Goop G.Tox Himalayan Salt Scrub Shampoo (2018)

    influenster: goop gtox

    Mont Blanc Legend Eau de Toilette (2011)

    influenster: mont blanc

    Have you heard of Influenster? Did you already join Influenster and received products like these? Do you want to join Influenster to receive free a voxbox and want to know more about the community?

    Leave a comment and tell me what you think about Influenster and the product discovery app.

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  • How To Meditate: Checklist and Guided Practice

    How To Meditate: Checklist and Guided Practice

    In 2018, I learned how to meditate effectively due to high-stress levels from working a job that brought me much misery and grief. I had to find a release, an escape, something that allow me to relax and be at ease. When I first started my journey into meditation, I had no clue how to meditate, did not know if it really worked, nor what it all meant. I always heard it explained as “a way to practice mindfulness”. Moreover, I thought that it sounded like an option to explore to relieve stress. After two years of practice, I still continue to meditate and use it to help with stress.

    Firstly, my journey introduced me to breath work and guided practice. Secondly, the meditation-guided practice helped me achieve inner peace has made things 100% easier. I share and document my meditation process on social media often and I get lots of questions from others about how should they begin meditation. Lastly, there are many people interested in meditation but feel that they’re not doing it right or have absolutely no clue what they’re doing.

    Meditate With Guided Practice

    You are NOT alone! You are NOT the master!

    Yet.

    I can relate to the feeling of being excited to do or learn something new and not knowing where to start. It can lead to an overwhelming feeling and sometimes makes you lose your desire to learn. As a result, I created a Mindful Meditation Checklist to help beginners feel comfortable with learning this new skill. The checklist has the basic tools that you will need to successfully complete one meditation session and will need to be repeated frequently to see results. This checklist is able to hold you accountable when you’re wondering if meditation and mindfulness is affective for you, as it is for me.

    Click here to download your free checklist today to begin your first meditation session!

    Get Your Free Meditation Checklist

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  • 8 Awesome Yoga Poses for Anxiety (Tested)

    8 Awesome Yoga Poses for Anxiety (Tested)

    If you have been following me on social media, then you know that I have been practicing yoga. My practice method is 2-3 times a week, and sometimes I’ll post the transitions I’m practicing on IGTv (Check my Instagram for “Self-Care Sundays”). I’ve been enjoying getting to learning yoga poses to help improve my physical and mental health. Regular discipline and practice have increased my ability to find inner peace and salvation. Oh, and did I mention that I’m not an expert at this? Although I am not as trained as some, I’ve still gained a bit of knowledge about the art of yoga. We all don’t have to be Yogis!

    8 beginner yoga poses

    Being at home for five/six months has taken a lot of adjustment for all of us, and it steadily affects my mind and body. Yoga has allowed me to escape to find release. I’ve learned eight poses or transitions that have helped me to relieve tension, stress, and anxiety. These eight yoga poses are great for beginners like me and are steps in the direction towards allowing yoga to heal your body.

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  • 8 Guaranteed Best Aromatherapy Must-Haves

    8 Guaranteed Best Aromatherapy Must-Haves

    Essential oils are one of the ways that we combat stress and anxiety while allowing us to relax and take a load off. Each blend is unique in helping decrease chronic pain, tension, headaches, and even sinus pressure. People find ways to incorporate aromatherapy into their daily life to improve health and general wellbeing. Plenty of men and women have purchased electronic diffusers that can illuminate your home with your favorite scent for hours! Aromatherapy roll-ons are an easy application tool to try using on the body or a pillow before bed.

    They are one of the best features of a relaxing and rejuvenating bath bomb. One of the questions that I receive a lot is, “how do I know that I am picking the right scent to help me relax and unwind?” and I am so happy that I can finally answer this question for you.

    Essential oils have different aromas and all derive from a combination of different things such as fruit or plants. Depending on what tickles your fancy, you may not enjoy citrus or a pine fragrance. That’s okay!

    Types of Aromatherapy Oils

    I’ve come up with 8 essential oil blends that are must-haves for achieving relaxation and relief and I want to share them with you today.

    I have options for anyone looking to find the aromatherapy fragrance for them.

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  • How Releasing Negative Thoughts Improved My Life

    How Releasing Negative Thoughts Improved My Life

    Negative thoughts are thoughts that stand in the way of good health. The road to self-improvement is a constant journey that requires regular maintenance. I am consistently being challenged to find more ways to persevere through obstacles that arise and it sometimes triggers me to react negatively. My thoughts and fears take over and send me on a downward spiral of self-doubt and uncertainty. I’ve learned how to channel that energy into practicing mindfulness and meditation and it’s really been essential to my self-help development. However, I don’t always feel like being mindful or meditating every day.

    letting go of negative thoughts changed my life

    Stop and Redirect Negative Energy

    When my thoughts and emotions start taking over and controlling my reactions, I’ve learned to stop and redirect them. The one thing that I’ve learned while practicing meditation is that the mind can drift off if you let distractions deter you. You know that you can multitask, you know that you can focus on more than one thing at a time. It’s very easy to lose focus on positivity and the things that matter the most to you. Shifts happen all the time in everyday life, what went well today may not go well tomorrow, and boom! You’re in your head again. Adjusting to shifts in your routine and everyday life isn’t always a quick and easy transition.

    PRO TIP: stay vigilant. You cannot allow negative emotions to dictate your life. The moment that you feed into that negative energy, you are creating and building more obstacles and hurdles for yourself. Discipline yourself to stop and redirect that energy somewhere. Channel it into something else that will emote positive results and energy.

    Write Your Negative Thoughts Down

    My head can easily get clogged attempting to process every single thought and feeling that you have. Painfully overwhelming! What makes it more difficult is trying to sort out those feelings and emotions all at once. It’s too much! How can I solve my problems when I can’t even clearly think about them? Writing down thoughts, feelings, and fears can and will declutter your mind, giving me at least a moment of peace. Writing has always been a safe haven for anyone to be able to speak their mind freely.

    PRO TIP: write it down and read it to yourself aloud. Decide if it’s worth holding on to. If your answer is yes, stop and redirect. If your answer is no, ball up your piece of paper with your thoughts and feelings, and throw it away. Let go of that feeling of wanting to think and react negatively.

    See also: How to Reduce Stress and Self-Care Everyday

    Negative Thoughts are Normal

    There’s no way that I should be expecting myself to be perfect, yet I still do. I’ve trained myself that I should expect nothing but excellence. I’m a planner and an organizer. In my mind, I think that I have what it takes to be perfect. Truth is, it’s impossible for anyone to be perfect. However, for some odd reason, I think that I’m supposed to handle every thought and feeling perfect. I’ve since learned that I need to take a moment, stop and redirect. Realistically I cannot think that everything that I do or every emotion that I have is going to be positive. Especially while on a path to self-improvement because

    *spoiler alert*: it doesn’t happen overnight. I’m going to stop blaming myself every time something goes wrong. I’m also going to discipline myself to stop blaming others every time something goes wrong. PRO TIP: the plan is to always continue moving forward. It’s never personal, it’s a challenge. Don’t question the challenge (no matter how difficult it may be). Stop and redirect. Know that you are deserving of a happy life and believe it!

    Consistent Work Will Decrease Negative Thoughts

    One thing that I know for sure is that I can never give up on improving the way that I want to live my life. Negative thoughts come and go and they only linger if you fuel that energy. Stop giving life to things that don’t make your life better! Consistently putting in the work to defeat negativity and the pessimist views that it brings is going to require great discipline. Implement discipline and routine practice daily to stay focused and on track to meeting the goals that I want to meet and attain. In the beginning, it may be rough, but you’ve got to see it through by staying consistent. PRO TIP: repetition is key.

    I’m taking control over what consumes my mind and I encourage anyone else who hasn’t been in control of their thoughts to also do the same. I’m human, you’re human. Discipline yourself to stop and redirect negative energy. Continue to move forward even when you’re feeling like you’re not ready for the challenge. Stay consistent and develop a high level of focusing on what positively impacts your life.